A Brick at a Time

The Wall Nobody Meant to Build

Most relationships do not end because of one terrible thing. They end because of many small things that were never properly addressed.

What Is a Brick

A brick is any offence, hurt, disappointment, or misunderstanding that was not resolved — just carried forward. How bricks are made and what they are made of.

The Illusion of Irreconcilable Differences

Irreconcilable differences rarely appear from nowhere. Almost always they are the name given to a wall that has been building for a long time.

Counting Your Bricks

Before a wall can come down, it has to be seen. What it looks like to honestly inventory what is between you and someone you care about.

Removing a Brick

One addressed offence is one brick removed. What genuine resolution looks like, and why partial resolution is not enough.

Building Without Bricks

What a relationship looks like when offences are addressed rather than accumulated. The alternative to building a wall is building trust, and that is also done one brick at a time.