It is easy to honour people who are like you. People who share your values, your background, your way of processing the world. Honouring them requires almost nothing from you: they are already recognisable. They already fit your template of what a person worth honouring looks like. The real test of honour is what you do when the person in front of you is different. Difference triggers a particular set of human responses. We become cautious. We become evaluative. We apply our standards to the other person world and find it lacking in the places where it diverges from ours. We confuse unfamiliarity with inferiority. We assume that the way things are done in our world is the right way and that departures from it represent deficiency rather than simply difference. This is one of the most pervasive and damaging misreadings of other people that exists. Genuing honour across difference requires a prior recognition: that your way is a way, not the way. That the things you value, the rhythms you move to, the standards you apply, have a particular history and context that is yours but is not universal. From that recognition, difference becomes interesting rather than threatening. The person who processes the world very differently from you is not doing it wrong. They are offering you a view of the world you would not otherwise have access to. That is not a problem to be solved. It is a gift, if you have the eyes to see it.