Most people — especially young men in Nigeria — are never taught to name what they feel beyond 'fine' and 'not fine.' But the language you have for your emotions shapes what you can do with them. A person who can say 'I am not sad, I am grieving something I expected that did not happen' has a different relationship to that experience than someone who just says they feel bad. Emotional vocabulary is not about being soft. It is about precision. And precision gives you something to work with. You cannot fix 'I feel bad.' You can begin to work with 'I feel humiliated because I expected respect and did not receive it, and I do not know how to hold that yet.'